Priya's Answer !!!

well... this is not one of those write ups which brags endlessly about the 'divinity' of females and their 'caring and compassionate nature' which is supposed to be non existent in men...if they were non existent ... why would women find their soul mate in men?food for thought....
i whole heartedly agree that girls are kind of complicated.. but there's something behind everything she says that tells the guy there's some ulterior thought that has to go into what she jus said(when i am generalising girls here.. i take the liberty to leave out the 'chicks' with brains in the size of peanuts whose vocabulary only includes the words 'so sweet , 'so cute' and 'duh')
thats what makes a girl mysterious.. interesting... bluntly put 'complicated'...
lets take a few examples to make my point clear..
1)girl says-you told me you'll message me once you reach home.. why the hell didnt you message me???!!!guy thinks ' what the duck?? cant u give some privacy??? i forgot ok.. damn it.. mind your own business..'
girl was thinking ' he left office 45 mins back...and it only takes 15 mins for him to get home...and he didnt wear his helmet today..and there's this stupid news flash on some accident near his office...did something happen?? is he ok?'
now tell me... is there anything wrong in what she asked?agreed she sounds like a nag initially but as i said the ulterior thought thing is to be implemented here.. (again.. i am leaving out those pea brained girls who think their boy friend's life should revolve around them with them being cynosure and regular updates on what time he got up,brushed his damned teeth and took a trip to the forsaken loo!!!cmon.. give the guy his space.. he loves you.. doesnt mean he should answer these even remotely significant questions)
2)girl says-hey i wrote this article and it was published in a journal.. i got a copy of it for you to read...
guys says'really?'stares at a 4 page article for 5 secs.. and says ' i dont have the time to read it' and returns to the hockey match going on between holland and some country which is not even on the map!!
girl gets mad.. guys says ' u get angry for everything!!' now picture this.. guy gets a 6630 model nokia phone and shows it to the girl... girl says 'nice' and stares back at the tv on which 'jassi jaise koi nahi' is going on.. would the guy be outraged? you're damn right he will... all that the girl expects is for the guy to say.. 'hey thats cool... the match is almost over on tv.. i'll read the article as soon as the game's over.. bcoz i dont wanna be distracted when im reading it...' thats it.. thats all it takes...
i hope ive proved my point...rather make you understand why girls do what they do...
and as for guys being labelled insensitive.. i totally disagree.. its jus that they dont know how to react... actually they dont know how the girl wants them to react..he he
we know you guys go ga ga over sports.. food .. computers and gadgets.. we dont understand the reasons for it...but we're cool with it.. why?because thats what makes you guys.. :)

Girls and Anger

Well I don’t know if I am true or not but girls can get angry at anything. At anything you can't even imagine of.
Examples,
1. Getting angry at what you eat or drink
"Why are you drinking Pepsi? I told you to have Miranda!!!"

What the hell, its my wish what I want to drink and I am thirsty and I feel like having Pepsi and quenching my thirst. And I am also paying for the drink. Well that doesn’t matter now. She is angry and can do anything.
2. Getting angry at what you are wearing
"Didn’t I tell you to wear white shirt?? Why are you wearing blue??"

What the duck, the maid didn’t come. The shirt was wet or the dog ate my shirt or the stupid dhobi burnt my shirt all this cannot convince her. She is angry.
3. Getting angry at what you buy for yourself
"Who told you to buy shoes for 700 bucks?? Why didn't you ask me?? I would have never allowed you to buy that stupid leather shit!!"

What’s your problem lady? I work hard, I bring the shit out of my ass and work till my boss says good work young man and I get a bonus and want to buy something for myself, but no no no. she is not convinced. She is angry. Phew.
4. Getting angry if you try to buy something for her
"No not needed, I am not taking any gifts from you. I don't want you to spend"

Who cares lady, if I would have ever spend on Ashwin or Kini they would be like. WOW !!! have a drop jaw and be my best friend ever. (I never bought anything for them either) But you cant do anything. She is red.
5. If you don't accept what she is trying to give to you
"You never take anything I give you, never ever. Its such a kutti gift and you making so much fuss about it."

Now you can't open your mouth even.
6. If you say something sentimental or don’t say something sentimental
"You don’t talk to me about your feelings, you think I don't deserve to be part of your life"
Lady I have pain in my ass and that’s why I am not able to talk properly and there is nothing I am trying to hide that makes me feel that way. Don't don't don't try, it wont help. She is now sad and is so angry; she can break your nose. Pain in the ass plus pain in the nose. That’s great feeling to have.
They can be angry at anything, If you are driving fast or If you are driving slow or If you are not driving or If you...........................
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh.......... I am dead.
Well there are few things which you can never ever, never ever understand why they do. Why do they love you when you are so insensitive and so boring and so into football and cricket and have nothing else to talk other than politics and women and computers and gadgets and cars and so so many uninteresting things but she still loves you. You can never figure out why.
Thats why they are women!!! And you are some stupid insensitive TV watching robot.

Was trying to add photos.....

I was trying to add photos to my blog... The result is the three blogs u see, just below this blog... Khaya piya kuch nahi glass toda bara aana... Anyways I will keep working on that, till I am able to get the funda and post photos... Thanks to Anil, I am able to connect Hello and my Blog... Just that, when the photos are posted and no one able to see... Thats the only problem ...
I think, I have to go to settings and change some HTML code... Will call Kini in Bombay or Anil in US and ask for help...
Tab Tak ke liye...
Jai Raam Ji Ki.....
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I have links of friends on my Blog......

Yahoooooooo !!! Oye balle balle balle !!!! Buraaahhh!!! I have links of friends of friends on my blog, on the right hand side you can see just above previous posts. Its written powered by Blogrolling, "I HAVE THE POWER OF BLOGROLLING!!" wakaw..
I am hyper excited. All I need to do now, is to learn how to add photos. Thanks Kini. With the power of my company phone I called him and took gyan on HyperText Markup Language (HTML) and did this stuff. Wakaw!!!
Jai Raam Ji Ki !!

Saarang 2005 - II

Went for the Rock Concert on 22nd at IIT. It was great to be back at the place I love so much.
ROCK CONCERT 22nd January 2005
The rock concert was to start at 7.30 PM and we were there at around 3PM. Ashwin, "We will go and hang around there for sometime, chumma timepass" ; what he exactly means "We will check out the girls there"
Wanted to compare the OAT before and during the show, so took some fotos.
Show started at 7.30 and there was noise and crowd and halla gulla and jumping up and down. Phew. Me, Priya, Tina, Ashwin, Dhagala, Arun, Ramana, Kelkar and Archana were standing right infront of the stage.
Orange Street was good. They had some fusion plus rock. Somthing like "Hare Rama Hare Krishna" plus "We dont need no education". It was not Pink Floyd but Orange Floyd you can say. They have improved than the last time they came to IIT. ( In June 2003)
Moksha was too much attitude and they didnt sing covers. (I left OAT around 9.45 PM ) They sang all originals and so people were not in too much enthu. In the end they came up with Metallica, "Nothing else matters" I was out of the OAT at that time and could hear the crowd go wild. Went in again at around 11.15 PM and it was "Two Minutes to Mid Night"
It was fun.
DECIBELS 23rd January
Its a competition of the semi-professional bands of India. Few photos. Buddha Blasted was good. They played here last time also. Drummer was awesome. And they had some girls promoting heir new album. Me Ashwin and Ramana were sitting and having a chat near the stage and they came "Please can you buy the CD of Buddha Blasted, its just 100 bucks" Ramana"No, we cant, we dont like rock and we are from Bomabay and passed out of IIT and here to see Saarang........ something something...... " all crap..... they went off..... Bloody fool..... Well we were all the time doing some Bluetooth data transfer so the girls must have got impressed and came to sell the CD. Who says flashy phones doesnt attract women?? Had fun yesterday also.
Planning to go to Light Music Concert on 25th Night, KK is coming.
Jai Raam Ji Ki !!

Saarang 2005

Saarang is here... IIT Madras's cultural festival.... from 21st Jan night to 26th Jan night its all fun and masti and hungama...
Orange Street comes back to IIT after some 18 months (they were here in the June RockOut in 2003) and Moksha and KK(Tadap Tadap Ke Is Dil Se... fame) and The Ali Khan Brothers playing Sarod... It can't get beter than this..
This time IIT Madras has loads to offer to the the civilians.. (read: Non IIT Madras junta)
Check out the site and make plans...
Jai Raam Ji Ki..

Swadesh Again !!

Last time I saw a movie in theater twice was Independence Day. Went to Globe in Calcutta and watched the movie. It’s still one of my favorite movies.
Swadesh is different, Swadesh makes you think, Swadesh makes you say to yourself… “Hmmm is it what I always wanted to do?”
When you watch Swadesh and come back home you can’t just go to bed. You just keep on thinking about the movie. Compare Mohan Bhargav with your own life.
Watching Swadesh again was awesome… loved the songs even more…
I loved this line a lot “MAAN SE RAVAN JO NIKALE RAAM USKE MAAN MEIN HAI” from the song Pal Pal Hai Bhari Yeh Vipida.....
Songs written by a Javed Akhtar Saab are too good and music is great by Rehman. Rehman has become god now, all I can say. He is giving great music and he is going to reach the level of Pancham Da in future.
About Ashutosh Gowarikar, wah wah wah… he is awesome… It’s an honest attempt to make a very good movie. He will reach the heights of Guru Dutt very soon. Although Guru Dutt made just 3 movies, Kagaz Ke Phool, Pyasa and Sahib Biwi Aur Gluam, he is still considered to be “The Man” who tried to be different. I haven’t seen Kagaz Ke Phool but the other two movies are awesome and make you think a lot. Ashutosh didn’t make the movie for commercial success. It’s for the people. And the name itself suggests “SWADESH-WE THE PEOPLE”
This is Shah Rukh Khan’s best performance ever. No hamming. Nothing like, kkkkkkkk-kiran…... and his lips start to shiver and you know he is sentimental. Nothing like “papa main aap se maafi mangta hoon” and his whole body is shaking. It’s his best performance till date, no doubt about that. Come on Mr.Khan, it’s great to have friends like Karan Johar and Aditya Chopra but you have the talent to make good movies and even the junta have got bored of seeing you as Rahul Khanna and Raj Malhotra. So tell them, Karan I can’t dance around trees anymore I want to do more and more meaningful movies.
I took some photos of the movie in the theater. Enjoy.

Jai Ram Ji Ki !!! (Swadesh style)

Dear Mr Mohan

Dear Mr Mohan,
Sorry for not writing earlier, was busy with some work so....
Well I know few people personaly who have come back from US and were doing quite good there. One of them is Dr. Supratik Chakraborty. He is an IIT Kharagpur President's gold medalist. Passed out in 1994 (if i m not wrong) and was in US for some years and came back to do what he loved most. Spread the knowledge he had gained.
http://www.iitb.ac.in/TeleDir/dept.cgi?Code=5 (This is just to show you that I am not bluffing)
He is a professor now in IIT Bombay.
Please go through this article.
Rooster's Call (came in Outlook India on 18th December 2004)
"A life well lived is coming home to do something besides, money being no object"
written by SUGATA SRINIVASARAJU
So, is there more to the story of the returning NRI, the Bollywood superstar 'slumming it' role and the developmental innovations of a former Citibanker. Of course there is, and one way to see it is to take a walk to the Vinayaka temple in Chennai's Besant Nagar, where it isn't uncommon to see traditionally dressed elderly couples shod in out-of-the-box new Nike trainers. The only variant-many parents will now have been joined by the footwear supplier, the NRI offspring.
For reasons ranging from bad (the dotcom fallout and the still-hurting knock-on effects) to good (the engineer/mba path is still a safe career bet, and if you're into anything radical, India's never been a better place to set up shop), NRIs have been returning to India in huge numbers. In Bangalore alone, something like 35,000 ex-NRIs have 'returned' over the past five years. This may dwarf the number in other metros, but the total for India over this period is at least 50,000.
And the numbers are growing. Last July, nearly 1,000 people of Indian origin, or PIOs, attended a job fair organised by a magazine in Santa Clara, California, and offered their resumes to companies planning operations in India. A Wipro job fair too met with similar enthusiastic results. Bhaskar Sanyal of IBM, who returned six months back from Singapore to manage a global IT project out of Bangalore, confirms the growth: "In the SAP community alone, we recruited 10-12 returned NRIs in the last three months." He also receives a lot of e-mail enquiries because he is known in the techie community to be pretty thorough with PIO procedures and taxation. CISCO director Srikanth Hoskote, who returned last April, also speaks about the huge volumes of mail from people who want to return.
Still, IT isn't quite the international meal ticket it was during the boom towards the end of the last decade, so it isn't surprising that most of the returnees are industry professionals. But the numbers are also made up of a number of remarkable artistes, bankers, entrepreneurs, lawyers and teachers, to name just a few. They are coming back to an India that is changed not so much for the Nike or Levi's or a certain quality of life but one which provides the means to the same "fulfilment", material and otherwise. Perhaps, even more crucially, these NRIs are coming back to India because they really want to, and not particularly because they need to.
Consider Ramesh Ramanathan's experience. As head of one of Citibank's key European businesses, this bits Pilani/Yale University alumnus had already stretched the envelope of the South Indian middle-class dream. But his motivations were focused by a deceptively simple issue. He describes NRI gatherings where they would have the usual conversations on India's ills: "The more Swati (his wife) and I thought about it, the more we realised that we were successful not just because of our own effort but because there was an invisible 'system' that enabled this search for excellence and accomplishments...that ensured the streets were clean, the garbage got picked up.... We began to believe that we had to return, that it was the obligation of our generation to build these systems back in India," he writes on the website of Janaagraha, an organisation the Ramanathans started in Bangalore to engage citizens, government, NGOs and the corporate world with a view to achieving greater citizens' participation in local government. In practice, this means the often difficult task of finding effective ways of working towards laudable goals such as a demonstrably usable implementation of the 'Right To Information' legislation, for instance.
In Karnataka, Ramanathan found a citizenry that could be educated about the potential benefits of such ideas, as well as a state that was buying into the information technology message in its own way.These were conditions for bringing in his skill sets and experience in a way that might have been inconceivable a few years earlier. It's still moot whether local governments all over India will be as receptive today to ideas like making quarterly performance reports available to the public. Yet, in an ideal world, such examples of participative democracy could be the norm. And his is not an isolated case.
In Calcutta, Amitabha Bhattacharya is finding similar satisfaction in effecting a 'dramatic' social transformation that will hopefully spread far and wide. In 2000, the IIT graduate left his $1,00,000-a-year job with a Silicon Valley data warehousing firm to make a mere Rs 20,000 a year through an unusual theatre group. He calls Banglanatak.com an "alternative communication plan for the social sector". It uses theatre to communicate to marginalised groups like Calcutta slum-dwellers, disadvantaged kids, truckers, port workers and people in the Sunderbans and rural Bengal in general. And the impact is heartwarming. The government has hired them off and on, and his team recently worked with the Calcutta police on an anti-drugs campaign. Like several of his fellow returnees, Bhattacharya is clear he's not in the charity business. Banglanatak is not a non-profit group. "We're a regular company," he affirms. "We make a living out of this."
Elsewhere, it's true, the motivation has been closer to home. As a software couple, Suresh and Usha Jamadagni, who spent 17 years in the US, explain, "We were alarmed when we saw how kids grow up in the US. Every summer, we sent our son, Chirag, to his grandparents in Mysore; he spoke endlessly about his time there...we realised he would be happy back in India. If you are in the US, you try to consciously impart an Indian experience to your kid. But in your home environment, the values are transferred quite naturally. We saw others who couldn't make the decision at the right time suffering."
Shivram Venkatasubramanian and his wife Shuchi thought along similar lines. After Shivram (fortuitously, as it turned out) sold his software firm in January 2000, the couple took time off to wind up their US affairs and acquire a couple of degrees before moving to Bangalore so that their children would have "another frame of reference" while they pursued their goals in educational consultancy. Other motivations have less to do with children.
When Vikram Goyal quit Wall Street major Morgan Stanley, he was advising giant institutional investors on the merits of investing in India. Barely a year later, he was knocking at the doors of posh boutiques and salons in India and abroad because he saw a global market for a pure, no-compromises ayurvedic beauty product with the right branding: Kama Ayurveda now sells in 12 countries. Suitably emboldened, he then set up Viya, a chain of upmarket lifestyle (read exquisite and high-priced objets d'art from the Northeast and Southeast Asia) with sister Divya, another returnee.
Meanwhile, professionals like Microsoft's Krishnan Srinivasan and Lucent's Sundaresh Iyer were seeking transfers to India because it offered an excellent way to mix career growth with a chance to test Indian waters. As Srinivasan says, "We may come back for good at some later point in our lives." Iyer though has taken rare time off at Bangalore's famous Vidhyarthi Bhavan for a mild roast masala dosa and a by-two coffee with old college mates and fellow returnees. It was in this 50-year-old cafe that they had first dreamt of America, after all.
Nevertheless, it would be naive to suggest that India's infamous brain drain is about to get reversed anytime soon.Intangibles like nostalgia may play a role, but for the most part these individuals make a success out of coming back to the motherland since hard facts back it up, like the exposure, education, growth, and not least, earnings that they got out of their foreign stays. In recent years, a two- to three-year India stint with a multinational firm has emerged as a challenging but potentially rewarding attraction. Many NRIs have found the luxury of living in India on a dollar-denominated salary impossible to resist when there's a career opportunity thrown in.
Certainly, when the money is there, the living can get a lot easier. Techie Aravind Sitaram and his artiste wife Soumya sold their Silicon Valley home and their cabin in California's Stanislaus national forest to move to a farmhouse outside Bangalore which hardly offers less in terms of "connectivity". Not far away is Adarsh Palm Meadows, a plush returnee NRI colony similar to gated communities in other metros. Architect Vankulapathi Vinay even moved from Sydney to Bangalore because he sensed correctly that there would be a demand for people who could design houses similar to what NRIs had seen abroad.
But not everybody is looking at India with the sort of long-term vision that encompasses house-building. While the number of successful returnees is significant, the majority, especially in cities like Bangalore, Chennai and Hyderabad, are from the infotech industry, and it's unlikely that the hiring triggered by, say, a jump in the tech-heavy Nasdaq index would necessarily keep many of them in India for very long. Certainly not as long as Java remains the second language of choice after Telugu, Kannada or Tamil. Economic opportunity is still the most potent of all motivations.
Such opportunity is certainly emerging in India, but it is still some way off the phenomenal transition that hit cities like Shanghai a decade ago; Viya's Goyal describes how overseas Chinese brought themselves-and their money-in hordes when they scented the sheer scale of big bucks to be made from a giant and fast-growing economy. No one's doubting India's potential, but the reality could take a while yet. Which is why many NRIs are still hedging their bets, short of making a clear commitment to India. It's also why people like Shivram, much feared by luckless fellow students at both bits Pilani and IIM Calcutta for his sharp tongue, cheerfully lets slip a suitably tart acid drop about the hypocrisy inherent in the biological impossibility of hearts in one place and heads in another!
Luckily, there has been a seismic change which has revolutionised Indian society in between; an emergence of realistic career opportunities that veer radically away from the doctors, lawyers and engineers so beloved of middle-class India. That's why a former investment banker like Goyal can find both meaning and money out of selling Vietnamese lacquer bowls, while another, like Ramanathan, finds comparable if rather different fulfilment in helping local governments become more transparent to their citizens. Perhaps even more importantly, India has shed enough socialist baggage that it no longer necessarily sees some trades as being morally superior to others. There's hope yet for India's emergence as a legitimate professional goal, it's certainly no longer a place to flee.

Comment on my Swadesh blog

This was someone's comment on the Swadesh blog. The guy didn't write his name or give his blog ID.
Anonymous said...
I saw Swadesh and I really felt the word of Mr. Mela Ram.But i will like to tell u my experience of the so called research organisation like DRDO, ISRO, CSIR, BARC. I had worked in one of the organisation for 5-6 years in the scale of scientific officer. I had really seen the struggle of Indians techie when they work in Govt reseacrch organisation.
I tell u all the organisation has very much common in them. i.e. No Human Resource Management. Because of which the talented suffers and those who does buttering escapes promotions also leads the section, divsion and the organisation. All top bosses in those organisation are burden to the nation, because they hardly work and at the same time they create lots of hurdles in work or by promotions. All research organisation are now polarised into zone i.e. some of bengal, Up, Bihar, Mallu, etc. In this polarisation enviroment there can not be fair research because the polarisation creates specific windows also obstacles to people of other domain. Also the increment and salary of these research organisation matures on joining or on pay commission itself. Due to dis-satisfaction of salary also people does nt care to work to their full potential. Seeing all this i saw my future becoming section head or division head of unproductive unit. I thought to quit the organisation and go to US. At US the life is very difficult but no body cares for other also. So there is no ploarisation in research organisation also the salary is good. Highly paid salary keep the enthu of the person in work and they contribute 300% at US.
I would say the same person who are performing 300% in NASA, Microsoft, CISCO, Honeywell, etc. will not perfom at 5% of its capacity at Indian Research Organisation. Also a fact that over 15-22 years none of the IIT graduate (B.Tech) candidate joins BARC, CSIR or ISRO. U may know the reason why.
It was very painful for me to take a decision to go US. I was having every thing in India my family, friends also a permanent Govt. job. But we scientific people are not clerk, we need some motivation for ourself. It comes only in work or by earning. Staying in Govt organisation can not provide money to me. Also the work enviroment is not conducieve.
Any milestone taken by the organisation was initial effort of the founder. The organisation now works on target ignoring personal satisfaction of the scientist working in the organisation.
So at this situation, after learning abt so much about India, i would never opted to come back to India as what Mohan decides in SWADESH. In fact I would have earned and helped some section of Indians by providing money for some basic necessacity like what MOHAN did elecrical generation program. But I would have not stayed at India.
Also one more thing There is no provision in Indian so called research organisation to recruit personnel who had worked abroad. Only at IIT some prof. post are open to MS and PhD candidate. Other wise those research organisation says that MS at US is not recognised as valid qualifications.
The Girl Gita at SWADESH is mad, I will tell you there is no Indian Girl who will not like to marry an engineer of NASA. she will get everything in life. Also we NRI takes good care of wife.
I may ask Ashutosh and Shahrukh to do some research in life of the scientist of research organisation of BARC, CSIR, ISRO, NPCIL. Also if u go to mumbai, mankhurd police station u will get the police record of nos. of scientist committing suicide at Anushaktinagar.
When Indian go abroad for study they learn technology at a lower cost and they in return pass on the technoilogy to India absolutely free of cost. This is actually reverse brain drain. Look Dr. homi bhabha and its research organisation is product of reverse brain drain. if Bhabha would have never been to UK for higher studies, how come he could have started an atomic research institutions.
Coming back to Mela Ram feeling, i do feel same that instead of working and developing our nation, we are developing America. But there is no way for us. India is not a place for scientist. Only the politicians, corrupts and Lazy bones can survive in India.
But as and on behalf of NRI, I promises to do something to India like what Dr. Homi Bhabha Started an Nuclear reseach organisation. Mr. Mohan in swadesh started electric generating station.
Hi, Mr (Nakli) Mohan
Firstly, don't get sentimental its only a movie and its only a blog. Will post somthing more on your comment soon. Till then.....................................

Da Lat & Nha Trang

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